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Frustrations In Children’s Minsitry: Senior Pastors

There are times when the greatest frustration a children’s pastor has is the senior pastor of the church. This is the most frustrating because this is the person God has placed in authority over you. When you go against your senior pastor, even if he’s in the wrong, you are going against God. So what is the right way to handle this frustration?

Remember the senior pastor’s vision is not only for the children’s ministry but for the entire church. Your vision should support his, not the other way around. Sometimes that means the children’s ministry will have to be on the back burner while another ministry is promoted. You need to be an advocate of the children’s ministry, but at times, you swallow your pride. and allow the senior pastor to make the decision.

Ask your pastor what you can do to help him fulfill his vision. It may be that he wants visitation to be a large part of growing the church. If you don’t know this, you might be spending so much time with other methods, you never visit the children in your ministry. You might inadvertently be the source of the problem.

Pray for your senior pastor. Pray for him, not that he’ll do what you want. Pray God gives him the wisdom to lead effectively.

If you don’t agree with your pastor, do what he wants anyway. Don’t grumble. Don’t complain. Don’t tell others that you disagree. Do it as unto the Lord. Let God work it out if he’s wrong.

Ask God to show you where you’re at fault. If you need to repent or to ask the pastor’s forgiveness, do it as quickly as possible. Don’t go against the man God has put in authority over you.

If you can’t submit the senior pastor’s leadership, it’s time to move on to another church. Do it in the right way. Don’t badmouth him. Part ways as peaceably as possible. Take the high road, and God will lead you to where He wants you to be.

Frustrations In Children’s Minsitry: Not So Well Meaning People

Sooner or later, every minister and every Christian comes across someone who comes against them with a vengeance. I’m not talking about a person who means well but just doesn’t understand. I’m talking about someone who means you harm. This is an attack from the enemy. Sometimes the person will use outright attacks. More often he or she will go behind the scene to attack your character and right to lead with gossip, innuendo, and outright lies. Unfortunately many times, this person will be or claim to be a Christian. Sometimes the attack will come from a friend. Whatever the case, it will happen, and when it does, it will devastate you. Here’s what to do when it does.

Recognise the spirit behind it. This is not a personal attack. It’s a spiritual attack. Don’t pray against the person being used. Pray against the spirit behind it.

Ephesians 6:12  For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Understand it happens to everyone. Jesus was betrayed by Judas, his disciple and one of his best friends. When this happened, his other friends deserted him. He understands the pain. Give it to him.

Pray for the offender. This is essential to allow God to move on your behalf.

Matthew 5:44-45  But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven…

Do not take offense. When you allow offense to take root in your heart, you’re giving a foothold to the devil. Let go of the offense, not for the offender’s sake, but for your sake. 

Ephesians 4:26-27  Be angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil. 

Communicate with your senior pastor. It’s important when a situation like this happens that you let your senior pastor know what’s going on. It’s up to him how he wants to handle it, but he needs to know the information to decide what to do about it.

Let God defend you. 

2 Chronicles 20:15  This is what the LORD says: Do not be afraid! Don’t be discouraged by this mighty army, for the battle is not yours, but God’s. 

Isaiah 59:19  …When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the LORD shall lift up a standard against him.

Remember that God is on your side. Don’t defend yourself. Let God defend you.

Frustrations In Children’s Ministry: Lack Of

One of the greatest frustrations in children’s ministry is lack of funds, resources, and workers. But this should not be. Our God owns a cattle on a thousands hills, and He can provide what we need.

Lack of Funds:

Lack of funds in this economy is a very real issue that faces all ministries including children’s ministries. Here’s some idea to increase your funding.

Ask your pastor for a regular budget even if it’s a small amount. If you can count on a certain amount of money coming in, no matter how small, it will help you figure out how to meet your needs.

Plan a budget based on what you believe God wants you to do, not on what you think you can afford. If you obey God, He will provide your needs according to His riches in glory. Take a step of faith, and start believing that.

Plan fundraisers to supply funds for the budget. For this, think out of the box. Get some creative people together for a planning session. Here a link to give you some ideas.

Find Prayer Sponsor who will provide prayer and funding for the children in your church. To find out more about how to do this, click this link.

Apply For Grants and ask Christian businesses to contribute to your children’s ministry. This is especially helpful for outreach. There are many sites on the web that teach how to apply for grants.

Give. Don’t hoard the money the comes in to children’s ministry. Teach children to give to missions and other outreach ministries by setting the example.

Pray. John 14:14 says If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it.

Lack of Resources:

Make a list of the resources you need. Include everything you need or want for children’s ministry on the list. Don’t hold back. Then prioritize the list according to what you need first, than second, etc.

Let your needs be known. There maybe someone in the congregation who knows someone who has what you need. By letting your needs be known, you may receive what you have on your list from unlikely places.

Look for bargains. Don’t be afraid to scout Ebay, thrift stores, and yard sales. Let God lead you to the places you can find resources.

Ask larger churches and ministries if they are getting rid of the supplies you need.

Have the children pray for your needs. I once needed a new sound system. The old one was terrible. It squeaked and went in and out during children’s church. But the children’s ministry didn’t have the money to replace it. Every week I would have the children pray for a new sound system. Every time the sound system cut out, I would say “Lord, give us a new sound system” in front of the children. In two months time, someone came to me with a new sound system they had bought but never used. This increased the children’s faith. We spent the next service thanking and praising God and teaching about how God answers prayer.

Lack Of Workers:

Don’t lower your standards. Sometimes children’s pastors are tempted to lower their standards because they can’t get enough workers. This is a mistake. No matter how tempted you are, trust God to provide quality people.

Make a list of all the workers you need. Don’t limit yourself to only the workers you must have. Include on your list everyone you could use if there were enough workers to do everything you want to do.

Use children as workers. Here’s a link that talks more about this.

Make recruiting a year long process. Here’s a link about how to recruit workers.

Pray for workers. Matthew 9:38 Pray therefore the Lord of the harvest, that he will send forth labourers into his harvest.

There should be no lack in ministry. If we trust God to provide where we lack, He will meet our needs.

Frustrations In Children’s Ministry: Well Meaning Parishioners

There are many frustrations in children’s ministry. Most don’t have to do with children, but with the perceptions adults have that put roadblocks in the way of the hard working children’s pastors. This week I’m doing a series on some of these frustrations. Today is well meaning parishioners.

A well meaning parishioner comes downstairs and says, “You missed a great service. It’s a shame you had to be downstairs with the children.” A great way to counteract this is to tell the parishioner what a great service he missed and talk for fifteen minutes about the triumphs and successes you’ve had recently in children’s church. It may not help the parishioner “get it”. He may walk away with a confused look on his face. But he probably won’t say that to you again.

A well meaning parishioner comes to you to thank you for babysitting the children so the adults can enjoy service. This may be the right time to explain in a polite way that you’re not a babysitter. These children are developing relationships with God at an early age, and you’re blessed to be a part of what God is doing in their lives. Invite the parishioner to come see what happens every week in children’s ministry. It might open his eyes.

A well meaning parishioner says he doesn’t understand why the church wastes time with children’s church now days. In his day, children sat with their parents, and they knew they better behave. You may not be able to reason with this parishioner. But you can reassure him that you are not watering down the gospel in children’s church. You are doing your best to minister to these children in a way that draws them into a closer relationship with Jesus Christ.

Why go to all the trouble to educate these well meaning parishioners? Most of them won’t get it when you’re done. Some of you might wonder if it’s not better to ignore these people. I don’t believe it is. As a children’s pastor, one of your jobs is to be an advocate for children’s ministry and to educate the congregation as to what happens in children’s ministry and why it’s an important ministry for people to invest time and money into.